We all make bad decisions (I am no exception). As most people know I have a bit of a "knight in shining armor" complex. I have a natural desire to help my friends and "rescue them". I see my friends doing many things that I think should be done differently. Sometimes it as simple as not owning a fire extinguisher.
But often there is a friend that is going out with someone you know is bad for them. You know it. Your other friends know it. You have tried to drop hints, or even come right out and said it. Now what do you do. Other times you see a friend putting money into something that you know will fail. They insist that they will do well.
This is where Rogifying your life becomes difficult. That is because to Rogify your life you need to relax and let them do it. That is right you must let go and not try to stop them. Your friends are adults and they can make their own decisions even if they are wrong.
If they ask your advice you give it honestly but don't try to go beyond that. Don't be passive aggressive. Don't try to drop hints or change their mind. This will simply alienate you from them. You will do more good by being close and waiting. That is because you need to be there to pick up the pieces when they crash and burn. The role of those that are Rogified is not to parent your friends but to be part of their safety net.
Rogify your life: Let your friends make their own bad decisions and be there to help them pick up the pieces.
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